The steps ahead can feel uncertain or overwhelming. Seek counselling support as you go through the divorce process.
Why Attend Divorce Counselling?
Sometimes, you may still decide on divorce as the way forward despite your best efforts. As you go through the divorce process, you may wish to speak to a counsellor. Divorce counselling would help you with the following issues:
- Working through your decision to end your marriage.
- Making preparations and decisions in the best interest of your children.
- Coping during and after divorce.
- Co-parenting and managing conflict with the other parent in a healthy way.
- Learning ways to help your children cope with the divorce.
When should you consider seeking counselling?
Counselling can be for anyone finding it difficult to cope with their situation or emotional distress. Counselling services can be especially helpful for individuals who:
- Have frequent overwhelming feelings such as anger and anxiety.
- Have frequent low moods and low self-esteem.
- Find it hard to do daily activities such as sleeping or eating normally.
- Start to turn to unhealthy patterns such as drinking, gambling, taking drugs, or overuse of computer games.
- Are unable to cope with stress in their marriage, with caring for their children or other family members.
- May want help for their children in coping with the conflict or divorce.
You are encouraged to reach out to a counsellor should you be experiencing any of the above. Do note that the list is non-exhaustive.
Diana (aged 35) received counselling support at one of the Strengthening Families Programme@Family Service Centres and learned ways to cope better.
“I wanted to move on with my life but even after a few years of divorce, I was still disturbed by the thought of how my ex-husband betrayed me previously. My counsellor patiently coached me to look at the event in a different light and to have a more balanced view of what actually happened. She taught me various ways to process the joys and frustrations I experienced in the marriage. She also explored my concerns with me and together, we came up with practical solutions for what I can do. I’m a lot happier and am less bothered by the divorce. I am able to live my life with a more balanced view of my situation. I feel like I am in better control of my life.”
Pause and Reflect
What kind of support do you need at this point in time?
Will you consider talking to a professional counsellor about your issues?