• Sometimes, we say the worst things to ourselves.
• • When families go through disagreements, it is easy to blame yourself with thoughts like: ‘It is all my fault’; ‘I should have done things differently’; ‘I am not good enough’.
• It is good to reflect on what you could have done differently, but try not to be too hard on yourself.
  • What you blame yourself for may not even be the real cause of the problem.
• Try to think and speak to yourself with kindness instead. Tell yourself you have done your best in a difficult situation.  

• Let yourself feel whatever you are feeling and thinking without judging yourself for it. Notice what is in your heart and mind to help you step back from the situation and feel less overwhelmed.
• • You can find out more about how to know your emotions.
• When you notice a change in your mood, you can say to yourself, ‘I am feeling sad right now’, or ‘I am feeling very angry’.
  • Putting your feelings into words can help you figure out what you are going through.

• Everyone faces difficulties in life. There are good days and bad days. They are natural and unavoidable.
• When things go wrong, it does not mean that you are a failure or that something is wrong with you. Some things are not in your control, and that is okay.
• Everyone makes mistakes, so it is more important that you try your best. Things can get better with time. You are not alone in this. 

We often speak to ourselves in harsh and unkind ways. Try this over the next few weeks:

• Notice the words you use when you speak or think about yourself. Write them down.
• Try your best to use kind and encouraging words instead of negative and judging words.
• For example:
  • DO NOT SAY: ‘I am a failure. I cannot do anything right.’
  • SAY: ‘I am going through a hard time. I can learn from this and find a way to feel better.’