As you understand yourself better, you can figure out the types of boundaries you need when supporting someone else. Think about: 

• Your values and beliefs 
• Qualities you appreciate in relationships and in people
• Behaviours that upset you 
• How you prefer to spend your time 

For example, if privacy is important to you, you can state how often and when you can be contacted.

It is also important to be aware of how the person’s actions and words make you feel. Think about whether you feel: 

• Uncomfortable or disrespected with anything they say or do
• Pressured or forced into actions that you do not agree with
• Overwhelmed with their requests and expectations

Reflecting on these helps you decide how to set boundaries as you journey with them. 

It is important to communicate your boundaries to the person you are supporting.

• Choose a time when both of you feel relaxed and can focus. 
• Prepare by writing down your points beforehand to share your thoughts clearly.
• Use a calm but firm tone.
• Use "I" statements and be specific. 

For example, instead of requesting "more personal space", try "Sorry I may not be able to pick up your calls when i am at work. I would be better able to offer a listening ear if you call me after 7pm."

If they feel upset because you need space, do not feel guilty or selfish. It is normal to care about how others feel but remind yourself that taking care of yourself is important too. You need time to rest and enjoy your hobbies to avoid feeling overwhelmed. 

The person you are supporting may not respect your boundaries all the time, especially if they are also feeling overwhelmed. When this happens, state your needs again calmly and clearly. Have clear and reasonable consequences if they cross a boundary. 

For example, if the person often has long conversations with you, try saying, “I need to stop for today. Let’s continue another time.”

Only state consequences that you're willing to follow through with. Following through on a consequence reminds the person of your boundaries. 

For example, if you tell your friend you will not respond during working hours, it is important to only respond after your working hours.

Healthy boundaries are clear, yet flexible. They respect both of your needs. They involve finding balance rather than extremes - neither pushing people away nor always saying "yes" to requests.